Timeline Page 6 of 9

Sep 22nd, 2015

After arriving at Pathways, but before entering Andrea's room, I was stopped by one of Andrea's nurses in the hallway and she told me, “I just wanted to let you know that I think what you are doing is amazing.”. I asked what she was talking about, and she stated, “Coming to spend time with Andrea everyday even though you are going through a divorce”. I explained to her that Andrea and I were not going through a divorce. She apologized to me and stated that the staff were told a few weeks back that Andrea was divorcing her husband.

We both then walked into Andrea's room together and the nurse told Andrea, “Honey, I think I just scared your husband that you were divorcing him.”. Andrea replied, “What do you mean?”. The nurse explained that they had been told a few weeks back that Andrea and I were going through a divorce. Andrea stated, “No we're not”.

Oct 8th, 2015

I received the following text message from John telling me he wanted to take Patrick to the museum this weekend.

John Hayes Chris Ansman

Oct 24th, 2015

I received a text message from Patrice saying that they had taken Andrea to the emergency room because of issues with her feeding tube. Patrick and I were already on our way for our scheduled visitation and the following exchange of text messages took place.

Patrice Hayes Chris Ansman

PATRICE: I just wanted to let you know that we are at Suburban with Andrea. There is no emergency. They just want to check out her tube in her stomach. We will let you know when we are back at the nursing home.

CHRIS: Where are you in suburban. We are at Breckinridge.

CHRIS: They only allow 2 back at a time. Come to waiting room so Patrick and I may see Andrea.

CHRIS: Andrea has asked you to stop this behavior. You have stated numerous times that you would honor and allow Andreas decisions. This is why I do not trust you with Patrick. You really need to accept you cannot control everything.

PATRICE: We are in the room waiting for the doctor. Michael has asked us to take

CHRIS: Yes because of what you told him. I am aware of that.

CHRIS: I have been advised by a friend that you have asked the staff to not allow us back there. Why, because that is what Andrea wanted? What will your excuse be this time for not allowing us to see her?

CHRIS: I am taking Patrick home. Your continued efforts to prevent us from seeing Andrea are not what Andrea wants and are not in her best interest. Please inform me when she is released so we can see her.

PATRICE: OK

Nov 2nd, 2015

Patrice,

I have spoken with Andrea many times over the past several weeks about our future together. The conversations have seemed to always begin with her asking me to take her home and expanding from there. I have explained to her the practice of guardianship and how it currently applies to her. I have explained to her the reasons Judge Karem made the the decision to appoint the state as her guardian and that I have the opportunity to reapply for guardianship after November 24th. Andrea has asked me to do so and stated that she wanted me to be her guardian. I took the time to explain to her that If I reapplied, you would most likely also reapply for guardianship and that only one person could be chosen to serve as her guardian. I clarified that she understood that. Andrea reaffirmed that she wanted me to be her guardian, but explained to me that she loved you all very much and did not want me to prevent any of you from visiting with her. I promised her that I would not do that. I have explained to Andrea that even though she tells the court that she wants me to be her guardian, they only have to consider her request, but are not obligated to follow it.

Andrea is very aware of the conflict that exists between you and me. I have explained to her that she signed a Power of Attorney the day she was admitted to the hospital and that the Power of Attorney gave you the authority to make decisions on her behalf. I told Andrea that you exercised the authority granted to you by the Power of Attorney to prevent me from speaking with her doctors about her medical condition and that in June you made the decision to not allow Patrick and me to visit with her anymore and that this decision was what prompted me to seek guardianship. I did clarify that you stated that Patrick could come and see her, but that I was not allowed to accompany him. I explained to Andrea that you told me these decisions were based on what she told you were her wishes.

Andrea is upset about the restrictions that are currently in place that prevent me from taking her outside. I have told her that I am upset for not being allowed to accompany her on doctor visits outside the facility and that her current guardian has delegated that responsibility to John and you. I have explained to her that the guardian has put these restrictions in place based on the allegations you made to social services and that even though these allegations have been investigated and found unsubstantiated, the guardian refuses to lift these restrictions. Andrea has told the staff at Pathways that the allegations are false and has asked the staff to allow her to speak with Mr. Gutter, but Mr. Gutter has not come to speak with Andrea.

Andrea asked to call you yesterday to see if you were willing to come to Pathways so we could all discuss her wish for me to reapply for guardianship and attempt to work out the hostilities that exist between you and me. I explained to her that I did not believe you would be willing to do so and that I have attempted numerous times to talk to you, but that you have consistently given me the response “I am focused on getting Andrea better and do not believe that now is the right time to discuss these matters”. The response you gave last night, “We will talk, but not right now.”, validated my belief. If you are unwilling to sit down with Andrea and me to discuss her future, that is your decision to make, but urge you to reconsider. Andrea knows that you will not agree with her decision and is concerned that you will be upset with her for making it.

Chris

Nov 7th, 2015

While visiting with Andrea today, one of the neurologists from the group who treated Andrea in the ICU arrived at Pathways to evaluate her progress. The doctor asked Andrea a series of questions that measure Andrea's cognitive ability, memory retention, and reasoning skills. I noticed that Andrea was unable to answer some questions that she was able to answer for me earlier this morning. I am unsure if this is because Andrea has forgotten the answer, or the frustration caused by the time it takes for her to speak the words and decides to simply give up.

After the doctor was finished I asked if I could speak to her privately. I asked the doctor several questions about Andrea's progress, medications, and prognosis. I then asked for her to detail the damage that Andrea's brain had incurred. The doctor explained to me that Andrea's brain damage was “global”, affecting most areas of her brain, but that some areas of the brain are more susceptible to oxygen deprivation and obviously sustained a greater amount of damage than others. She specifically cited that Andrea's occipital lobes, parietal lobes, hippocampus, and basal ganglia had sustained the greatest amount of damage from the hypoxic episode. The doctor then explained that Andrea had developed a significant amount of scar tissue on her frontal lobes, but that occured prior to her admission to the hospital. I immediately stopped her after hearing this and asked, “Andrea had brain damage before going to the hospital?”. The doctor affirmed her statement and explained that this damage was discovered during the MRI taken after Andrea's admission to the ICU at Norton's Suburban Hospital. She further explained that this type of damage is common amoung chronic alcoholics and is the result of the toxic affects from prolonged alcohol consumption. The doctor again stated that Andrea's scar tissue was fairly significant, and based on the amount, had developed over a period of at least 10 to 15 years. I quietly stood there, stunned by her revelation. I thanked the doctor for her time and returned to Andrea's room.

I now realized why Patrice was so adamant that I not be allowed to speak with Andrea's doctors. Patrice's complaint to Social Services centered around the explanation that Andrea's alcoholism was the result of self-medicating her depression caused by my abuse over the past 2 years. This information would also have provided me another valid argument to contest the Power of Attorney Andrea signed the day of her hospitalization.

I sent Patrice a text message earlier that morning asking her about the appointment Andrea had with her neurologist the day before. She responded 4 hours later. After much thought, I decided to confront Patrice about what I had learned. As with all my messages that contain questions or accusations that Patrice does not want to address, she chooses not to respond.

Patrice Hayes Chris Ansman

CHRIS: What did the neurologist report yesterday?

CHRIS: Still believe We should not be appraised of andrea' s true medical condition? Keeping that from us is wrong and you know that.

PATRICE: I have been at a birthday celebration. Andrea's doctor wants to gradually change one of her medicine to another and might want to do another EEG in January. The nursing home has a report from the doctor.

CHRIS: I understand, but how would I know that? I am obviously frustrated by your belief that I do not deserve to know her true condition. Today I found out that brain damage was discovered in her frontal lobes that had been progressing for several years before she went into the hospital. You chose to keep that from me and I can guess why. I know Andrea would have never told you to keep me from being informed of her medical condition and you continued to do so. I'm sure you have made yourself believe that you have done all this with some type of justification, but your methodical genius belongs on a battlefield or corporate boardroom, not in family matters. Before you choose to simply ignore my ramblings based on emotion, try showing a little. Attorneys always advise their clients to refrain from extemporaneous conversation, but our lives have been forever changed by someone we both love and it is tearing everyone apart. It's ok to express that.

CHRIS: Oh one more rambling that has bothered me since our court date. I was testifying that you once pulled me back from Andrea by my shirt as I tried to kiss her goodbye. I saw you turn towards your attorney and tell him that never happened. It did. In nortons icu when she was there for the 2nd time in May. Just a little something that's always bothered me.